Why Do I Do That:
Why Do I Do That? Psychological Defense Mechanisms and the Hidden Ways they Shape Our Lives is a self-help book for people who don't usually buy self-help books.
Instead of offering cognitive-behavioral techniques for dealing with anger, or affirming strategies to boost self-esteem, this self-help book adapts the basic methods of psychodynamic psychotherapy to a guided course in self-exploration, highlighting the universal role of defense mechanisms in warding off emotional pain. Even the best self-help books tend to stay on the surface, helping readers to modify their conscious thoughts and behaviors. Why Do I Do That? instead probes deeply into the unconscious.
With easy-to-understand explanations, the first part teaches you about the unconscious mind and the role of psychological defenses in excluding difficult feelings from awareness. Individual chapters in the longer middle section explore the primary defense mechanisms one by one, with exercises to help you identify your own defenses at work. The final part offers guidance for how to "disarm" your defenses and cope more effectively with the unconscious feelings behind them.
Psychological defense mechanisms are an inevitable and necessary part of the human experience; but when they become too pervasive or deeply entrenched, they may damage our personal relationships, restrict or distort our emotional lives and prevent us from behaving in ways that promote lasting self-esteem.
Why Do I Do That? promotes self-help for readers who want to improve their relationships, manage their emotional lives more effectively and develop authentic self-esteem that will last. If you find that even the best self-help books lack depth and fail to instigate lasting change, this psychodynamic self-help book may be for you.
"Dr. Burgo has a talent for taking difficult concepts usually expressed in the scientific vocabulary of his profession and putting them into everyday language. A valuable resource for anyone interested in psychodynamic psychotherapy but who may not be able to afford treatment.” --Ann O. Glasser, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist.
“This book tackles complex matters of the human condition and the workings of our minds in a highly sensitive and forthright way. Its pages detail the many extraordinary ways we undermine our own emotional growth, clinging instead to self-depreciation. The candor and wisdom found in this well-crafted, jargon-free book will be an immensely useful tool for growth as an adjunct to psychotherapy or for those who cannot access or afford quality treatment.” -- Callae Walcott-Rounds, Ph.D., Psychoanalyst